Friday Fun Love: How to Fight Fair

What I have noticed over the course of 6 years of marriage is that how you fight is the life and breath of a relationship. Let’s be honest, EVERY couple fights or has disagreements. If you don’t, then someone in the relationship is not being themselves. As a result, it can lead to one spouse always giving in to the other spouse, which they will eventually have enough of that and blow up one-day.

Since we know we all fight…then how to do fight in a way that won’t be damaging to the relationship? Well here are some of the tips I have learned from books and or learning the hard way.

– Don’t say YOU, always say I or me. Example, “You always do this” Instead say “When this happens, it makes me feel____”. This way, it will allow your spouse an opportunity to respond instead of feeling attacked. Men typically will shut down when they feel attacked. If you want your husband to respond to you and engage in the conversation, then make sure you are using your words wisely.

-Try to stop and think for a second… is this fight really worth jeopardizing the health of our relationship? Half the time we fight because we get emotionally charged about something. If we would take a second think about what we are fighting about, we would realize maybe it is just best to let it go. Being right is not always what is right for the relationship.

-Watch the tone in your voice. It is hard for the fight to turn into yelling if one spouse stays calm. If you start to raise your voice then your spouse will counter that by raising their voice even higher. Before long, you both won’t be able to hear what you are even saying. Yelling turns into anger and anger turns into things being said that you don’t mean. Once this happens, it can be VERY dangerous for the relationship. It is best to try and stay calm and talk about how you feel instead of yell it. It’s not what you say; it’s how you say it.

It all comes down to taking the emotion out of the moment and trying to think logical about the situation (instead of acting out based on how we feel). I know that is hard to do sometimes, but it is like anything else if we practice a lot at it then eventually we will become better at it. That logical reaction will become more of our forefront thought in the heat of the moment.

Just remember, the goal of our relationships is to grow closer together not apart. So everything you do either brings you one step closer or one step further apart.

Thursday Thoughts: What do you think about a LULULEMON warehouse SALE?!

Exciting for people who love yoga and live in the Los Angeles area. Check out the sale in September to get great deals on pants, accessories, tops and more!

http://www.warehouseweekends.com/2013/09/lululemon-warehouse-sale-august-2013.html

WHEN:
September 13, 2013 8:00 AM – 8:00 PM
September 14, 2013 8:00 AM – 8:00 PM
September 15, 2013 8:00 AM – 8:00 PM

WHERE: 
Lululemon Athletica Warehouse Sale at the LA Convention Center
1201 S. Figueroa Street
Los Angeles, California 90015, CA 90015


Brand website:  www.lululemon.com

Tuesday Treasures: Home Goods

Who is #HomeGoodsHappy? I am! Today I went to home goods and purchased skillets and some cute containers for my dog food. I love this store; the products are good quality at a good price. I love that every time I go; I never know what I am going to find.
http://www.homegoods.com/blog/category/all/page/2/

The website has a great blog, gives you fun ideas for decorating. I’m really into these lanterns below. I will have to make another trip to the store just to go get these!

http://www.homegoods.com/blog/category/all/

I also enjoyed this post, transition your fashion into furniture. Since I am in the process of redecorating my house, this is a great tip. I am going to review my closet for home decor inspirations.

http://www.homegoods.com/blog/2013/06/18/fashion-to-furniture-blue-yellow-white/

Monday Moment Insider: Azadeh Riaz

I got the opportunity to interview Azadeh Riaz from AZADEH for The Los Angeles Fashion Magazine. Click below to see the interview and learn about the insider secrets of starting her own collection!

http://www.thelosangelesfashion.com/2013/08/24/azadeh-riaz-of-azadeh

AZADEH

Friday Fun Love- “The 5 love languages”

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
Since my husband is a Marriage and Family Therapist, he knows a lot about relationships and the right steps to take to maintain them. We read a lot of marriage books; attend a lot of workshops and couple retreats. We get asked questions all the time, so I thought I would start sharing our experiences and information with you.

Joe and Tosha Clemens
Have you ever heard of the book, “The five love languages”? It is my favorite relationship book. I think because it personally affected me the most out of any book I have read. When Joe and I first got married, I noticed something was bothering me about our relationship, but I couldn’t put a finger on it. After reading the book, I realized that the issue was that we weren’t fulfilling each others love language. Let me explain a little bit more about what this means….We all have a primary way that we want to receive love as well as how we give love. Sometimes the way you show it and the way you give it is the same and sometimes it is different.  For me, I enjoy showing love to my husband by physically touch, a kiss, a hug and holding hands. I like to receive love by him giving me words of affirmation. Example, him telling me he loves me. I need to hear the words, not assume that I should already know. Or in the beginning of our marriage, he would show me he loved me by doing things for me, “acts of service”.  Like, washing my car or taking out the trash. Don’t get me wrong; I love those things but those are just added bonuses, what I really need is him to tell me how he feels verbally.
If you feel you would like to take your relationship to the next level and develop real intimacy then I would highly recommend reading this book.  To give you a better idea, you will learn about these 5 languages: words of affirmation, physical touch, gifts, quality time and acts of service.After reading it, you will discover that we all need all of these in our relationship but one will stick out to you more than the others, and you will also discover the same for your spouse. Marriage can be a beautiful thing as long as we are willing to work for it!
See below for the book and for more information see the website below:

Nitty Gritty Fashion- New Name, New direction

This site will continue to be focused on fashion, I am just dedicating more time to the site and adding new exciting topics. The new format is listed below

Monday Moment s Inside :  
“Behind the scenes”, showcasing someone in the fashion industry, giving you a better look into the world of fashion.
Tuesday Treasures:  
Showcasing must have products, items on sale, what is trendy and where to shop.
Wednesday Wardrobe:  
A look into my style, my inspiration and my closet.
Thursday Thoughts: 
Showcasing what is going on in the fashion industry, events, designer highlights and fashion shows.
Friday Fun Love:
The new addition to the site is the relationship column. Since my husband is a Marriage and Family Therapist, we have learned a lot about relationships and I am excited to start sharing that information with you!

Ready for Magic?

http://www.magiconline.com/wwd-magic
Magic is one of the highlights of the year for the fashion industry. Buyers and fashion professionals from all over the world come out to Las Vegas to attend this tradeshow. Buyers are excited to see new trends being showcased in the market as well as what products they can buy for their stores. This is equally an exciting time for exhibitors. If you are a fashion brand that sells to different stores and boutiques then setting up a booth at magic can be a great way to take your business to the next level. Thousands of buyers will walk the floors of the show and get a chance to see what your brand is all about. I have attended this show many times as a buyer looking for new products and new vendors to partner with. What I enjoy the most is getting to meet new people, attending the seminars (in which you learn more about what is currently going on in the industry), as well as people watch. I love seeing what everyone is wearing!  Today is the last day of the event. Here are some of the highlights.
http://www.magiconline.com/wwd-magic?page=0%2C4
To learn more about magic, you can see the website below.